Insociologists Pepper Schwartz and Philip Blumstein published American Couples: Money, Work, Sexthe first major study of its kind to compare gay male, lesbian, and heterosexual couples on basic issues such as sex, communication, and money. Among many other findings, their research showed that lesbian couples had less frequent sex than anyone else. Over the decades, though, those of us who first publicized the American Couples findings have come to doubt them.
I have been in a relationship with a bisexual girl for more than 10 months. We have a pretty okay relationship, we have our strong differences but there are things about her that I do adore. However, we are having some bedroom issues.
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Do you want to have great lesbian sex? What is something you can do for your lover that will really turn her on? Here is a letter I received from someone who wanted to know what she could do to really satisfy her lover.
The term was coined by sociologist Pepper Schwartz who, with some very debatable methodology, reached the conclusion that committed lesbian couples have less sex than any other types of couples. Ever since then, women have feared a decline in sexual appetite and have often felt that LBD is an inevitable outcome of being gay. The real story is that lack of sexual desire or activity is a problem that affects all kinds of couples, not just lesbians.
Whatever your sexuality, dealing with a sex drought in a long-term relationship can be really tough. I mean, society has even given us our own special term for when the sex has dried up - Lesbian Bed Death! Sounds ominous, right?
When was the last time you had sex? And how often do you usually have it? Sexual problems are very common.
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People have a lot of misconceptions about what being in a lesbian relationship is like. I've been in one for a year and I'm amazed at how many people assume that we just sit around doing needle point and talking about our feelings. And that's just the people who even realize we're in a relationship.
Lesbian bed death is the concept that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts, and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence. The concept is based on research by social psychologist Philip Blumstein and sociologist Pepper Schwartzpublished in American Couples: Money, Work, Sexwhich found that lesbian couples reported lower numbers when asked "About how often during the last year have you and your partner had sex relations? Subsequently, scholars have regarded it as a popular myth. Pepper Schwartz is credited as coining the term lesbian bed death.